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Defining Your Signature Style

Updated: Nov 1, 2019

Have you ever had the experience of someone blessing you with a gift and while you are opening it, they say something like, “This is so you, I just had to get it!” I have a vivid memory of just that very thing, even though it’s going on 35 years ago. A friend and her mom had picked out a beautiful white blouse for me as a high school graduation gift. It was white cotton dotted Swiss (is that even such a thing these days?!) with a ruffle around the neckline. It also came from a department store that I never had the pleasure of shopping at. It was a gift in excellent taste. My friend said something like, “we both thought the ruffle looks just like something you would wear, so we had to get it for you!” I was so pleased and surprised to receive such a thoughtful gift, so of course I wore it.

There was just one problem. I didn’t really like ruffles. So why did someone who knew me so well think I did? Very simple. I wore my sister’s clothes (a lot!) and she liked ruffles! And florals. And girly dressy clothes. I was busy saving for college, so I was way too cheap to buy my own clothes. Or at least buy enough of them so that I wouldn’t have to borrow clothes I didn’t necessarily like. Don’t get me wrong, I liked them well enough to borrow them, but they weren’t what I would choose if I was going to plunk down my own hard-earned money.

Fast forward to a conversation I had with my dear friend Carey last week. We were discussing signature style. One of the points we parked on was that signature style is like a handwritten signature. It’s our unique style that identifies us. It’s those things that make people say “that’s so you!” when they find a special gift like my friend did for me so many years ago. Our conversation then turned into an exercise of finding just 1 or 2 things that we wanted to be part of our signature style. (Believe me there will be more, but she had to get to work :) For Carey, her list is starting with a statement ring. Her grandmother always had a statement ring, and she loves them too. She mentioned that wearing one always gives her a boost. I love that! My list is starting with manicured fingernails. I always feel more put together when my nails are done and it ups my confidence.

So, as we start to think about signature style, how would you start your list?